Q: Is it typical for your significant other to masturbate after sex?
A: Given that everyone is built differently and has their own sexual quarks, it's likely that most of us engage in some types of "non-typical" sexual behavior. But, perhaps what you meant was, "Is it unhealthy or problematic for your significant other to masterbate after sex?" In that case, the best way to answer this question is to talk about it with your significant other. Why do they do this? Do *they* think it's problematic?
For some people, masterbating is the easiest and most reliable way for them to reach orgasm. If this is the case, perhaps your partner masturbates during or after sex just because it's the easiest way for them to cum. Your partner may very well not see this as a problem and may have done this with all of their previous sexual partners as well.
If your partner does see it as a problem, then perhaps you could explore other ways of stimulating each other during sex. There may be a particular way that your partner likes to be stimulated, which makes it easier for them to orgasm. Again, this is something you'll only know if you have a conversation with them about it. Being able to communicate with your partner about sex is a big part of having a mature, healthy sexual relationship. It may not always be easy, but it's almost always beneficial.
Answers provided by Dr. Ross Avilla
Dr. Ross Avilla has been teaching Human Sexuality since 2013 and has a PhD in psychology from UC Davis. Dr. Avilla is not a clinician and all information and advice offered on this website is for educational purposes only.