Q: My girlfriend doesn't moan or make noise whatsoever during intercourse she just breathes heavily. Is this normal?
A: This can be completely normal. Some people are naturally quiet during sex. For many people, there is some level of concentration that is needed in order to enjoy sex and reach orgasm. So she may just be quietly concentrating on how her body feels in the moment.
It could also be that she's not reaching orgasm during sex. The best way to figure that out is to have an open conversation with her about it. It can be difficult to have these sort of conversations, but if you communicate that you're interested in her pleasure and want to make this the best experience it can be for the both of you, hopefully that will help her to be honest. It could very well be the case that she's already enjoying sex with you and experiencing orgasms, but is quiet when she does so. You'll just have to ask her to find out.
Answers provided by Dr. Ross Avilla
Dr. Ross Avilla has been teaching Human Sexuality since 2013 and has a PhD in psychology from UC Davis. Dr. Avilla is not a clinician and all information and advice offered on this website is for educational purposes only.