Q: I don't enjoy sex with my partner as much as I used to. I think that as our relationship has gone on, he has become more sexually selfish and I find myself getting really sexually frustrated. I have talked to him about it twice before, but I'm not sure that he's taking it seriously. When I ask him to give, he makes it clear that he doesn't really want to yet he still wants me to give him a blowjob. Do you have any suggestions on how to communicate and bring actual changes to our relationship?
A: If you’re clearly communicating your needs and he just doesn’t seem to care, then it doesn’t seem like you’re in a mutually caring and supportive relationship. It’s ultimately up to you as to what to do next, but you basically have 3 options. These 3 options are common for most relationship conflicts. Basically, you can try to 1) change the situation, 2) accept the situation, or 3) leave the situation. To be more specific…
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Dr. Ross Avilla has been teaching Human Sexuality since 2013 and has a PhD in psychology from UC Davis. Dr. Avilla is not a clinician and all information and advice offered on this website is for educational purposes only.