Q: As a guy, i hear tons of stories about how vaginal sex is amazing, yet I typically get very little stimulation during vaginal sex. In fact, when I am receiving oral sex I feel huge amounts of stimulation. Is there something wrong?
A: This is a fairly common experience for men. The walls of the vagina are very smooth and soft and this can sometimes not provide enough stimulation for the penis for a man to reach orgasm. On the other hand, the mouth has the tongue, lips and soft palate, which can offer more varied stimulation (especially if you throw in stimulation with the hands as well). This can make it easier for a man to receive enough stimulation to orgasm.
One way to make sex more stimulating in general is to mix up the type of stimulation being used. You can switch between vaginal, oral, and manual stimulation as your having sex, which creates more variety in sensation. Also, the penis can sometimes get "burned out," or numbed by repetitive stimulation. This is easily fixed by not stimulating the penis for a minute or two so that it can regain its sensitivity. By adding more variety and spacing in penile stimulation, it's likely you'll able to reach orgasm more quickly and during vaginal intercourse.
Answers provided by Dr. Ross Avilla
Dr. Ross Avilla has been teaching Human Sexuality since 2013 and has a PhD in psychology from UC Davis. Dr. Avilla is not a clinician and all information and advice offered on this website is for educational purposes only.