Q: Is it possible for there to be a healthy relationship after a friends with benefits relationship and a threesome? Where the male and female know everything about what the other has done.
A: I’m not really sure of the details of this relationship, but it’s definitely possible to have a healthy friendship or romantic relationship with someone after having sex with them or people they know. A healthy relationship is one that involves communication, trust, mutual interests, and having fun. If you have those things in common with someone, there’s no reason why you cannot have a healthy relationship with them.
If you find that your sexual history impedes one of these things (such as trust), then this is something you can talk about with them. If it’s a good relationship, you should be able to express your feelings and your wish to have a good relationship with them. By being open, honest and caring in your communication with this person, you two can form a more positive relationship or at least have more clarity on what your relationship currently is.
Answers provided by Dr. Ross Avilla
Dr. Ross Avilla has been teaching Human Sexuality since 2013 and has a PhD in psychology from UC Davis. Dr. Avilla is not a clinician and all information and advice offered on this website is for educational purposes only.